We all struggle with the idea of who we are, where we’re going and why we are here. It is important to understand that the reality of our life is what we make it. Is it what will happen to us or is it the realization that we can determine where we’re going to go? Of course, detours may happen along the way, but it is the self-determination that we focus on that guides us to our ultimate purpose.
We can talk about our system of belief, our philosophy of the purpose of life, our origins, our experiences, our upbringing or any of the other factors that may have determined who we are and where we’re going. These are all valid but, in the end, it is our environment today that determines our current reality infused with our attitude, positive or negative, that establishes who we are today and sets the stage for who we will be tomorrow.
If you look at yourself, are you someone who is progressing toward a destination that is satisfying? Or, do you see yourself not making any progress in your life or slipping backwards? What is it about your reality that needs to change? What is it about your attitude that needs to change? If you believe in self-determination, you need to figure out what the next step is going to be. If you don’t, you will wait and react to the next thing that happens to you. Is that really what you want to do, wait for something to happen to you?
No matter what your belief system is today, it can be different tomorrow. If you say, “I am so down in the ditch, there is no way my life can be different tomorrow,” you are not understanding how elevating your life can be when measured in the smallest of factors. What is important is the smallest bit of progress, measured by you, not the immediate complete change. The transition can be instant or barely noticeable. It is only you who fixates on the outcome.
What is important is change you are creating in your mind; you need to believe that the change is worthwhile and fixate on that notion. To transcend, you need to change your mind. You need to change your mindset and change your attitude. No one can do this for you. Stepping up to face a life change means flipping the switch. I say this from experience – smoking. For seventeen years I didn’t know what it took to stop. I tried hundreds of times. Finally it got to the point where I had to flip the switch in my mind! Emphatically determine that I was going to quit smoking. I was not going to fall for the gratification that smoking gave me. I was going to enjoy other gratifications that came along with not smoking. All this was a mental process – not a time absorbing process, just an acceptance in the absolute belief that I no longer had to do this activity. It was just a decision that was made that finally clicked in my mind. The decision clicked and my mind’s switch was flipped, and I no longer had the urge to smoke.
All this may seem very easy, but it’s not. I understand that. My point here is that your reality in life is what you make it. You need to get rid of the negative perceptions of your past and decide on the realities of your future. Let me say that one more time – get rid of the perceptions of your past and dwell on the realities of your future.
Please understand I’m here to help you. I have an incredible will to help others flip the switch. Email me or call me anytime to help you get to where you want to be.
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